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African clothes and cultural appropriation

I'm helping to organize Victoria's first African & Caribbean festival. We're hosting a fashion show and not all our models are of African or Caribbean descent. Similarly, during African Spirit Night which takes place every month, there's a line on our Facebook event page that tells people that they're encouraged to wear African traditional clothing to the event. My friend asked me "aren't you guys promoting cultural appropriation?"

The line was directed at Africans who have traditional clothing but don't wear it. You know how many African folks have clothes but feel it wouldn't be really appropriate to wear it to the mall, or to church? We want African Spirit Night to be where you can feel comfortable wearing your native, as Nigerians call it.
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Back to the topic at hand, cultural appropriation and clothes. Where do we draw the line? I don't get offended when I see a white girl wearing aso oke. It actually makes me quite happy. I agree with this post about cultural appropriation: it invalidates a culture and people, it commodifies (by placing monetary value), reinforces stereotypes, romanticizes and exorticizes people. To me, a white girl in aso oke doesn't do this.

This white chic called Susan is wearing aso oke for whatever reason does not invalidate Yoruba culture, although it may not necessarily promote it. I'm not Yoruba, so to me aso oke is already a commodity, and Nigerians pay to wear it. 

Oh, remember that "tribute song to South African and Columbian culture" by Shakira called "Waka Waka"? Hello cultural appropriation 101. That song was not even South African, but that's beside the point. Shakira invalidated, commodified and exorticized. Go girl! I remember when she released her remake of "Zangalewa" and I told my friends, I grew up singing that song, and they were like "umm, no, Shakira just released it"

1) Is it marketed to you as an object/custom from a marginalised culture without any context? If yes/unsure,don’t do it.
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3) What is the history/meaning of objects/languages/rituals in the culture? Are you aware of the meanings/history of these things? Will you be using them in a way that misrepresents them, or diminishes their power? If yes/unsure, don’t do it.
This. It is so important to understand the meaning and value of an object before appropriating it. As a foreigner visiting Nigeria, wearing our clothes is no big deal. However, walking around singing "Zangalewa" is another story.

5) If someone from calls you out on appropriation/racism, are you going defend your perceived right to appreciate their heritage, & how they shouldn’t be offended? If the answer is yes/unsure, you definitely shouldn’t do it.

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Thoughts: On bad skin and being positive...

I turned 22 yesterday, woot woot!

I consider myself a positive person, the cup is always half full or whatever, there's always a brighter day ahead, oh yes! But, I've been breaking out like crazy on the right side of my face, and I have no idea why. I've been using an aggressive treatment of facial massages with tea tree oil and apple cider vinegar, and it doesn't seem to be getting better. I'm really getting frustrated.

It was also Mother's Day yesterday, so I went home. I have box braids which usually cover my face, and occassionally, my hair would move away from my face, exposing my cheeks and my sisters would say "oh my gosh, what happened to your face?". It's just so obvious that my skin is a mess. I struggled with acne in my early teens, and I don't remember if it affected my confidence, although I'm sure it did, but this is just different. I'm trying to unpack my shallowness in order to understand why my confidence is so directly tied to my looks. I keep thinking to myself: what if I'm crossing the road, and get run over by a car, and lose both my legs, will a lot of my confidence be gone, just like that?  

Still..whenever I look at my face in the mirror, all I see are the numerous bumps and what-nots.

Being positive
I'm the coordinator of my university's Food Bank. There's this older man who comes to the food bank whom I always found sort of annoying. He later told me that he was involved in an accident, and it will take him 10 years to complete his degree, but he only has 2 more years to go. He also shared that during tests and exams, he is allotted twice the time that students without disabilities get. This man always has a smile on his face and is always so positive. Today was one of those days, and the conversation we had got me thinking. 

When he stopped by today, he asked how I was and when I asked about him, he said "you know, leaning forward". I was like "umm...whaat?" He explained that when he was younger (before his accident), he worked in the forest, and his boss would always say "lean into the wind". He uses that as a metaphor for being positive, you put one leg forward, and the other leg follows, and you keep moving forward. 

I've got acne on one side of my face, but I have so much more to be thankful for, yet I choose to dwell on acne. I'm pretty pathetic, but I'm working on it. 

Reminiscing Mondays: The Maldives

Today's Reminiscing post comes from my friend, Olu. He'll be "chillin" in Nigeria for a little bit and will be guest blogging his experiences, which I'm really excited to read. 

 There was a thunderstorm my first night back. I would’ve thought it was a bad sign…if I didn’t know any better. The objective of these entries is purely to record my informal observations. I say informal because this
allows me to get away with all manners of grammatical errors (see what I did there?) This is DEFINITELY
an amateurs’ attempt and I claim to be no expert in blogging, or whatever topics I will be writing on. I will try and include a picture or a short clip in each entry for continuity sake. I admit the title is a bit odd but it is supposed to be a metaphor.


On my 13 hour flight from Atlanta to Lagos, I watched a fascinating documentary about the Maldives. It featured a brief exposé on the country’s pseudo-democratic rule it was subject to for about 30 years. When a young brown knight on a horse emerged to challenge the norm and champion the peoples’ cause, people straightened their backs – because as MLK said, “A man cannot ride your back unless it is bent.” He won the election and the Maldives lived happily ever after, right? Wrong! Within the first month of occupying office, his administration was faced with a new type of problem. Their country that is made of thousands of island was sinking, a consequence of global warming. This is what I see here in Nigeria. We won the fight, but we are now sinking. A new type of problem has arisen and now people are trying to stay afloat. There you have it! Title explained. 

I would like to thank God for this opportunity to come back home after so long, and all the experiences He has preordained— the spontaneous ones too. To my folks, thank you for footing some of the bill. Ms. Brown thanks for this small piece of your large pie that is Pearlle. Hope I spelt that correctly!

Pearlle Kpop Chat | Eat Your Kimchi interviews uBeat

Simon and Martina are cray cray and this interview with uBeat just felt really chill, like a chat between friends. I was really surprised when Eli said he wasn't recognized in Columbia, and how lonely he felt. Then again, it's Columbia. Students there must be huge bookworm.


Check out the bloopers below:




Video | Origin of the phrase "Women of Color"

Providing a political and ideological meaning to the term. Please share the knowledge!


Memorable quotes from Project Runway Season 11


The 11th season of Project Runway just ended and the judges ripping on the clothes on the runway had me lol'n. Here are a few memorable ones:




-The whole thing looked a little pedestrian - Zac Posen
-She looked like she rolled on the ground and rolled into some leather pieces. She looks like she's been ship wrecked- Nina Garcia
-That was a horror show. Talk about bad construction - Nina Garcia
-It looks a cross between a table cloth and a napkin - Nina Garcia
-It's a poncho not a shawl. It's a ponchoastraganza   
-It looks like a mistake - Heidi
The art teacher is on an acid trip - Michael Kors
-It's Betty White from Dancing with the stars. It's the length from hell. It's Holly Hobbie - Michael Kors

Tuesday Tips: DIY Makeup setting spray

Setting spray is expensive and I thought it would be a good idea to make my own. I watched a couple of youtube videos for inspiration, and decided to use a mixture of Clinique Moisturizing Gel + Pure Aloe Vera + water = awesome setting spray. Try it!

 




Tuesday Tips: Lemons for underarms

I told two friends two weeks ago that I am going on an "underarm journey" and they burst out laughing. What I meant is that I want to lighten my underarms. They're about two shades darker than the rest of my body and although it isn't that dark, I really want to make it even toned as the rest of my skin.

Here's what I've been doing for the past week:

1. Stopped using deodorant.

2. Started using lemon juice. I cut a slice of lemon and it usually lasts for about a week or so. You can also use lemon juice.

3. Exfoliate daily!

4. I plan to stop shaving and start waxing, cos shaving causes micro-abrasions and eventually darkening.

I'll post a weekly update to let you know how the lightening process is going.

New Music | Isaaki - Medley

Not so new anymore, since it was released on Easter Weekend and I forgot to post it lol. Still worth sharing, enjoy!



We're back...

Hey folks,

Our sincere apologies for the 2 week absence. We blame it on Boma and her constant technology woes. She spilled water on her laptop watching the video below. Since Madame Editor had no laptop, Pearlle was abandoned. But, we're back! Enjoy the video below:

 


Recap | Apartment Therapy Design Evenings with Nate Berkus


Apartment Therapy interviewed Nate Berkus on  Thursday. Check out the video  or read my recap if you're too lazy lol

Nate Berkus, Apartment Therapy
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Nate emphasized that our homes should tell the story of who we are and everyone should live in spaces that highlight the best parts of ourselves. He says that people should start off by thinking about the 5 things we love in our home and hopefully these 5 things become 15 and then 20. Before you know it, you're surrounded by objects that tell the story of who you are and places you've been, etc.
Nate's home
Gotta go out and buy furniture
We all know that feeling of moving into a new place and not wanting it to feel empty so we rush out and buy stuff. Well, Nate advises against this. He talks about only buying things you love, saying he would eat Thai food on the floor of his living room before buying a sofa he thought was ugly.

He admits to having a furniture list but not rushing through that list because he understands that the furniture industry is designed to make people feel bad about things they don't have. He shared that he is a flighty furniture lover when he buys things by mistake, like furniture which doesn't fit the room and throws the room off. But mistakes can work if you really love what you're buying because that piece of furniture will probably "rise to the occasion" somewhere else in your home. Solid advice.

In summary: forget trends, buy what you love and your home will stand the test of time.
Nate's new book

Today is Love Letter Day!

The 10th of every month on Loving From A Distance is Love Letter Day so go out there and send a love letter...maybe tomorrow.
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